Compile manually node and npm with bundled SSL

Summary:
The binary package currently in quarterly doesn't work on FreeBSD 13
with recent OpenSSL library bump.

With Node 17, when compiling the port, it complains about a symbol missing in
OpenSSL. As Node is bundled with its own OpenSSL library, it probably makes
more sense to use it.

Fixes T1673.

Test Plan: node --version and npm --version

Reviewers: dereckson

Maniphest Tasks: T1673

Differential Revision: https://devcentral.nasqueron.org/D2468